Inside Christmas: The Interbox Ep.3

Jingles’ desk at the workshop. He insisted on “cleaning it up”. That’s why there’s nothing but his notes and a couple quills.

Jingles

Santa said he was sorry I was sorry. Sorry I’m sorry!? He’s sorry I felt sad. Not that he made me feel sad! It’s like he’s sorry but not really sorry? I can’t stop thinking about this! Good luck getting to sleep tonight Jingles! I don’t know how I’m going to run the two department meeting Mrs. Clause is making me have first thing in the morning! And, when I went to her office today, the cookies had raisins in them!! Who puts raisins in a cookie!? A ND I have to interview workshop sweepers!

Leafhoppers

Jingles had an emergency bear and doll meeting this morning. First thing! Hi! How are you! Get in the meeting hall NOW! He’s sooooo annoying. When he turned his back, Apples made a funny face and I made one back with my tongue out! It was hilarious! Jingles asked us all “how can he help us focus more” then PebbleBrooke burst through the door with his cookies! It knocked Jingles over! It was so funny!

PebbleBrooke

Mrs. Clause, Susan, (we’re best friends now) let me take one of the cookie trays home to practice and I came up with the best trick! I hold the tray with one hand because I’m an expert now, then I raise my other hand in the air like it’s the end of a magic trick! I practiced with snowballs, I didn’t have enough cookies at home and Leafhoppers didn’t want to snowball fight yesterday so I had 600. I did it this morning in the meeting hall! Leafhoppers loved it! Everyone did! Maybe Leafhoppers will snowball fight today? Then it will be THE BEST DAY EVER!!!!!!

Jingles

I’M SO MAD! The elves refuse to focus AND Apples and Leafhoppers were making fun of me behind my back! My back was turned but my head was looking over my shoulder. It’s one of the most frustrating things about being an elf. When someone’s back is turned all you can see is their back. BUT, when your back is turned and you look over your shoulder, you can see everyone but they can’t see you! I learned that in the management academy and I wish I never did! I can’t believe Leafhoppers! We’ve lived in the same two family house since she was born! I even shared a room with her older brothers! I’ll talk to her after dinner tonight and I won’t take “I’m sorry you feel that way” for an answer!

PebbleBrooke

When I brought Santa his afternoon cookies, he was looking at the light up box on his desk. I asked him what it was and he said it was a way to keep track of things down south and up here. I wonder what that means. I’ll ask Leafhoppers.

Leafhoppers

PebbleBrooke told me the box on Santa’s desk lights up! Shimmy told me yesterday that it was mysterious but not that it lights up! When I looked at it, it didn’t look like it had a lamp inside it but I guess I couldn’t really see it. I’m gonna pretend there’s something in my slipper on the way to the break room and stop right in front of Santa’s office. I’ll take another look.

Jingles

I couldn’t wait till dinner to talk to Leafhoppers so I went to her station but she had something in her slipper. She said “I have something in my slipper I guess I’ll have to take it off!” Really loudly so it must’ve been something big. I had an interview with a potential sweeper and who knows how long that would take her to find whatever it was. I hope it didn’t take too long because she was right in front of Santa’s office with the internet computer I’m not supposed to tell the elves about. I call it an “interbox”. Has a better flow to it.

Inside Christmas: Inappropriate Singing Ep. 2

Jingles Bells

Leafhoppers

I peeked at Santa’s office today. He wasn’t there but I did see the box that Pears was talking about. It looked scary. It was a box but it wasn’t wrapped! Not even a bow! I almost couldn’t enjoy my hot cocoa. I drank it but still. Mrs. Clause saw me look! We locked eyes and I just moved away quickly. Hopefully she didn’t think anything of it. I just blew on my cocoa and went back to my station. I’ll talk to Pears about it later.

PebbleBrooke

I saw Leafhoppers talking to Pears when I was sweeping the mail room. I was about to go over there but Shimmy came over and told me that Mrs. Clause wanted to see me! I just froze and I dropped my broom! Leafhoppers came over and asked if I was okay. She’s the nicest! I said yes. It was a great talk. Mrs. Clause wants to see me!! ME!!!!

Jingles

I finally got the courage to tell Santa that I was sad that he was sad. I could barely get the words out without twitching. I sang “It’s a Holly Jolly Christmas” in my head the whole way to his office from mine across the workshop. Normally that works to calm me down but I forgot some of the words! I just hummed! It was terrible getting over there but I’m really glad I did. He said he was sorry I felt that way. I feel so much better! On my way back to my office I sang my favorite song, “Jingle Bells” only I say “Jingles Bells”! Ha ha!

Leafhoppers

Jingles started a sing along today! Everybody knows you can’t sing without all the other elves starting to sing! He’s the one that came up with the whole “only sing at designated times” thing and there he was, skipping across the workshop singing! We couldn’t stop until the song was done! PebbleBrooke didn’t stop, so we all sang again! I’m going to be really really angry if Jingles has the ornaments to say anything about inappropriate singing! I bet he will!

Jingles

We’re behind in production of dolls and bears but I don’t care! Not only is Santa sorry I feel the way I feel, but Mrs. Clause wants to see me in her office! She’s always nice and always has fresh baked cookies and cocoa! I can’t wait!

PebbleBrooke

Guess what!? I WAS PICKED TO HAND OUT THE COOKIES AGAIN!!! I met with Jingles and Mrs. Clause and she told me the good news! I did the one hand on the tray, one hand giving cookies thing again. Everyone clapped and cheered! It was great! I’m going to build another snowball wall and surprise Leafhoppers again today!

Leafhoppers

Apples had lunch with Shimmy, Mrs.Clause’s assistant. She said that Mrs. Clause, Shimmy calls her “Susan”, I don’t know why, doesn’t like Santa’s box thing, only she called it a “computer” with an “internet”. ??? There’s definitely something different and I really do think it has something to do with the box. I asked Apples to meet me and Pears at the chocolate shop after work. I don’t think I’ll have time for a snow ball fight with PebbleBrooke today.

Coming Soon…. “The Interbox”

Inside Christmas: Exclusive elf journal entries Ep. 1

What you are about to read is highly classified information directly from the North Pole. I can’t say much about how and why I came into possession of these items but I can say they were sent by real Christmas elves. They just got internet and feel a need for the world to hear their voices and know there are thinking, feeling beings behind all the Christmas magic we feel each year.

I’ll share the first few entries they’ve sent then more when I get them. They’ve declined to send actual pictures of themselves so I’ve opted to show you an elderly gnome.

An elderly gnome

They’re the southern cousins of elves. They have however sent some photos of landmarks important to them.

Leafhoppers: Workshop stuffer, 800 years old, comes from a long line of expert stuffers, proud to be where she is

Today was a doozy! I guess Santa was in a mood which made Jingles extra micromanagey. He came up to my station 5 times in one hour to check my work! I mean, I’ve been stuffing teddy bears for 600 years! PERFECTLY! I’m seriously thinking of complaining directly to Mrs. Clause but then I’d be that elf! Nobody likes a complainer. Especially in Santa’s village. I swear, one of these days I’m just going to LOSE IT!

Jingles: Workshop Manager, 2,000 years old, met the Easter bunny once, didn’t like him

Santa was a real Easter bunny today. Didn’t laugh once! Not once! I did everything I could to stay away from him. I don’t like that kind of negativity. It affects me really really badly. My ears start tingling, my nose starts twitching. It’s embarrassing! It takes me right back to the academy. My instructor was so demanding and serious, he’d allow himself only one half of a cookie at cookie time! That’s not healthy! I would twitch and tingle and he started calling me “Twingle”! Right back there today!

The Great Meeting hall at the Elf management academy

PebbleBrooke, Worksop sweeper, 300 years old, enjoys making snow balls in his spare time

I love my life, I love my life, I love my life! I got to hand out the cookies today!! Everyone loves the elf that hands out the cookies! Plus, the cookie hander is picked by Mrs. Clause herself! MRS. CLAUSE!!!!! Out of all of us in the workshop, she chose ME! I did a really good job too! At the end, I held the tray with one hand and gave out the cookies with the other! All the elves clapped when I did that! Great day!!

PebbleBrookes childhood summer home down south

Leafhoppers

I can’t believe it! On my way home from work, I saw Apples and Pears at the chocolate shop. We started talking and it turns out Jingles was all over them too! Apples said she saw Santa NOT SMILE at him! I’ve literally never seen Santa not smile! I wonder what’s going on? Pears thinks it has something to do with the box on his desk at the workshop. She said he’s always looking at it and it has a board in front of it with buttons on it. Not the kind for sewing. He never smiles at it. I think she’s right! Tomorrow, I’m going to take the long way to the hot cocoa machine on my mid morning break and peek in.

Leafhoppers’ favorite feather tree.

Jingles

Can’t sleep. I had my bedtime candy cane and normally I just pass out but not tonight. I think it’s because some of the elves are mad at me. I saw Leafhoppers, Apples and Pears talking at the chocolate shop. They stopped the minute I walked in and all pretended they were doing something else. Yeah right! I know the elves don’t like it that I check on their work but that’s my job! I’m the one that has to answer to the Clauses! Apples and Pears? Fine. But Leafhoppers!? I couldn’t handle it and I ran out crying! At least I wasn’t “twingling”! Oh, boy. Don’t think I’m getting much sleep tonight!

PebbleBrooke

I made 600 snow balls when I got home. I made a snow ball wall. I hid behind it and jumped out at Leafhoppers when she passed by. We laughed about it then we had a snowball fight! Leafhoppers is the best, most prettiest elf EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

More to come soon!

Cat Zoom Call 3 Fed by the Wrong Human

Belle anxiously waiting for Sammy to join and tapping her tail rapidly

Oh God is she asleep!?

Sammy

Sorry Belle, In was asleep. What’s up?

Belle

Something TERRIBLE happened today!

Sammy

I’m listening…

Belle

Are you? You look like you’re sleeping…

Sammy

Nope! Wide awake! Definitely not sleeping!

Belle

I got up at the same time like I do every morning, I went to the kitchen for breakfast, and I see the male human!

Sammy

Go on…

Belle

I was waiting for him to do whatever it was he was doing and move away but he didn’t!! I thought maybe he was nibbling on my food, rude but okay, turns out, he wasn’t! He was pouring more food into my bowl!!

Sammy

Harry

Ha ha! You mentioned food now Harry’s thinking about food!

Belle

Sammy!! Don’t you get it!?

Sammy

Ummm…. Yes?

Belle

Oh for fucks sake! It’s supposed to be the female!! Who knows what he put in there! He’s authorized to stroke my tail but that’s it!

Sammy

Oh my God!! Sorry, this whole time I was thinking about cleaning myself, then I was about to, then, I got it!! The wrong human did the wrong thing at the wrong time!! Oh Belle! I’m so sorry!

Belle

I just can’t even believe it!! AND, she was sleeping the whole time!! I checked!

Sammy

WOW! Just WOW!

Harry

Harry wants to know if you got food? Sorry, he was making annoying little noises and he wouldn’t have stopped unless I included him.

Belle

Yes but that’s beside the point! It’s the principle of the thing! Look! She’s rubbing my ear! She’s got some REAL NERVE today!

Sammy

Do this to her. See what I’m doing? Look away like you don’t care. That’ll teach her. I could go for an ear scratch…

Belle

It does feel good but I’m looking away! Looking away!!

Sammy

Just stay like that. See? And whatever you do, DON’T PURR!!

Belle

Too late. She’s moving her way to my tail. You know how I love a tail stroke….

Sammy

Oh I know. I could go for a tummy rub and full body stroke so I moved to this chair. My human will be here any second now. Talk soon?

Belle

Yep!

Belle ends the conversation

How To Get Rid of Roaches for Good!

Carl T. Roach R.I.P. 3/20-4/20

Cockroaches are the scourge of the earth. They were here long before us and will be here long after we’re gone. They can adapt to anything but they definitely hate certain things.

Living in roach-infested NYC in some pretty shitty apartments, I’ve battled many roaches. Through trial and error and a lot of research I finally found a way to get rid of them for good. Here’s what I’ve learned.

Know Your Enemy

The early cockroach dates back to the Carboniferous period in the Paleozoic era. We’re talking over 360 million years ago. Before the dinosaurs roamed the earth.

An etching of plant life during this period.

This period looks beautiful and you might be thinking, I’d like to take a time machine back there and have a look around, but keep in mind the living critters of the time were much, much bigger. Giant spiders and dragon flies with wing spans reaching 30 inches long!

Cockroaches are of the order Blattodia, the same order as termites. Their social structures are different – termites live in colonies with a caste system like ants and bees, while cockroaches are more individualized mother fuckers yet they do recognize kin. They tend to live in very large, disgusting groups, sometimes into the millions. Don’t think about that for too long. Like termites, they follow scent trails left by other roaches. This is why constant wipe downs of surfaces, especially kitchen and bathroom, are a must.

Cockroaches forage for food and water at night. They are most active for four hours after lights out. Don’t think leaving your lights on all the time will deter them though, they just adapt and think they are welcome any time. It’s like humans in northern countries where the sun doesn’t set, they don’t know naturally when to sleep.

They breath through their skin (gross) so suffocation by things like dish soap and sprays like Raid will kill them quickly. If you absolutely must leave a dirty dish in the sink, 😡, make sure there’s plenty of foaming dish soap in it.

Make Your Home Undesirable

Roaches are surprisingly persnickety. They hate the scent of lemon. They’re intolerant to sound. During quarantine, I’ve noticed a significant decrease in roach activity in the hallways and lobby of my building. Why? Corona virus? Could that be the one good thing? No, it’s most likely because we’re all home and stomping around. This info will come in handy later.

It’s imperative to wipe down your kitchen counter tops, stove top and table top with a lemon scented cleanser, or fill a spray bottle with water and put a few droplets of lemon oil (until you can smell it). Bathroom sink and top of the toilet too. Roaches are thirsty bitches and thrive in a moist environment. “Moist” 😬

Before bed, sweep your floors, make sure there are no crumbs lying around. Roaches will find them and tell all their friends about your all you can eat buffet. I like to swiffer with a lemon scented pad or mop with water and lemon oil. I have to limit the amount of oil in my water because my cats aren’t the biggest fans of lemon either.

Limit paper clutter. Roaches live to not only munch on cardboard but they will even set up shop in a cardboard box especially if it’s in the back of a closet and filled with paper. If you must keep cardboard boxes, I’d recommend investing in some space saving plastic bags. The type you put clothes in to store in your luggage, or the biggest size ziplock bag you can find.

Clean your pets food bowls and pour out their water overnight. Unless your pet is diabetic, this is not a terrible thing to do to them. You should be changing your pets water a couple of times a day any way to avoid bacterial growth and worse, a roach holding onto the side of your pets bowl lapping up the water. I’ve seen it….. I’ve seen it.

Limit access to trash. Roaches will forage. Avoid this by using a tightly sealed trash can. I use a diaper bin. They’re designed to keep the smell in so they’re pretty tight.

Find the Nest

In the beginning of quarantine, I found a specific roach. I named it so I could actually go to sleep at night, Carl T. Roach. He would hang out sucking on my kitchen sponge at night, then run for his life when I came into the kitchen turning the light on. Quick tip, dry your sponge before bed by microwaving it for two minutes.

I spent about two nights trying to catch him but failed miserably. I might have made a mistake naming him because I found that I was hesitant to smash him, so I decided to stalk and poison him instead.

Carl ran to the same spot behind my kitchen counter each time I turned the light on. I sprinkled DIATOMACEOUS DUST lightly, avoiding clumps, with a plastic spoon into the space between my kitchen counter and the wall. Diatomaceous dust will kill a whole group. Even if I didn’t reach the nest, if Carl were to crawl up again, he’d pick up the dust, and track it back to the others. They’d all end up ingesting it and die.

Sorry Carl!
You had a good run!

Get an Ultrasonic Pest Repeller

As mentioned earlier, roaches don’t like noise or movement. I got an ultrasonic pulsating device. You plug it in, 6 inches above the floor, and it emits a vibration and sound that insects and mice will run from. In the first few days you use it, you may notice an increase in activity. That’s because they’re all like “WTF!?” Kind of like we all were in the beginning of the pandemic. This is a good time to track them and find the nest.

To sum up…

1. Wipe all surfaces in kitchen and bathroom sink with a lemon scented cleaner every night before bed.

2. Limit paper clutter.

3. Sweep floors before bed.

4. Use a tightly sealed trash can.

5. Sprinkle diatomaceous dust lightly in cracks and crevasses where you see roaches.

6. Get a sonic pulsating device.

Good luck! 🍀🍀🍀

The Giving Shelf

I’ve lived in New York City for 11 years now. Actually born in NYC, Queens to be exact, but raised in NYC suburbia. I experienced community, helping each other out. Small towns mostly, think Stars Hallow from Gilmore Girls.

My dad was raised in NYC and always hated when people talked negatively about NYC, how there was no community when in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. In Spanish, we say “El Barrio”. The neighborhood. That’s a close knit group of people who know each other and look out for one another. A family.

I didn’t really understand this in NYC until moving to Kensington two years ago where I live now. I’ve always seen things, clothing, shoes, food, left on a shelf in my lobby. I took it for granted because I didn’t need anything.

During the pandemic, I’ve noticed it. Not because I needed something, but because I truly understood that there are people that can’t collect unemployment for instance. Or even if they could, it’s not enough to sustain a large family which I see now, there are many in my building.

I’ve seen so many move out and a few leaving in body bags.

I remember in the early fall seeing kosher food on the shelf as I was leaving for just 10 minutes or so, and seeing the shelf empty when I came back.

This was an offering to those who needed it more and the thought was both heart breaking and so beautiful.

I recently ordered new Christmas decorations like so many, just needed to fill my apartment with twinkling lights and a full tree. Had a grand old time playing classic Christmas music and decorating today.

But, what about those families who can’t afford to?

So sad! I remembered I had a table top tree fully decorated from years past in my closet.

What better place to put it than on the giving shelf for someone else to enjoy. Threw in some candle moments as well and some dried beans that I know I’m not going to make.

I’m not saying this for any accolades, but to suggest you too, leave something in your lobby or curb for someone else to enjoy this holiday season.

Cat zoom call 2

Sammy

….Waiting for Ginger to join

Ginger

Ginger joined

Oh God! You didn’t….

Sammy

I did! Decorated early! Well… my human did. But I willed her too. I think we need it this year.

Ginger

It’s not even ruined meat day!

Sammy

I think that’s called “Thanksgiving”? I know, but I need extra warmth. I don’t know why but somethings different this year and I need it.

Ginger

Yeah, I get it. Somethings up for sure. I hear you on the warmth. But you know how I feel about Christmas….

Sammy

Harry

Harry!!!! Ginger! Harry took my phone! Don’t talk to him!!

Ginger

Sorry Harry….

Sammy

Harry

Harry!!! Give it back!!!! You’re so annoying!!!!

Harry! Jesus Christ! Don’t point it at me like that! Terrible, TERRIBLE angle!

Ginger

Hey Sammy? Belle just texted me. Should we invite her? Do you do that?

Sammy

Ugh!! So annoyed! I’ll add her. Do I look fat? Remind me never to sit like this again.

……..Waiting for Belle to join

Belle

Sammy

What the hell!?

Belle

Have you seen this shit!?

Ginger

I wish I could un-see it…

Belle

THIS is what humans think of us!!

Sammy

But what is it?

Belle

Cats!

Ginger

No, no it’s not…. is it still there?

Sammy

Ummm…. I’m pretty sure that’s a human….

Belle

It’s cats. And there’s singing! Look!

Ginger

Dear God why!

Belle

Offensive on every level.

Sammy

It’s shaped like a human, it’s clearly a human face, but the ears…..

Ginger

I would like to never speak of this again.

Belle

And there’s one that eats cockroaches! Just eats them! And it’s a SHE!

Sammy

Ohhhh that pisses me off! I have no idea why!!

Belle

Ginger? Did she hang up?

Sammy

Let me see….. yeah, she left. I think it was the cats. Cats?

Belle

Oh no. Do you think she’s mad at me?

Sammy

Probably. Listen, I’m literally about to fall asleep. Talk soon?

Belle

Yeah me too. Ok! Good nigh…..

Sammy ends the conversation

Cat Zoom Call 1

Ginger

Waiting for Sammy to join

Sammy

Sammy joined

Hey girl!

Ginger

What’s up?

Sammy

Not much. Sitting on my heater.

Ginger

Ahhh…jealous. My heater isn’t here yet. He’ll be here in a couple hours.

Sammy

Your human? The male one with the warm foot?Now I’m jealous! I wish my human’s foot was that warm! I have to go all the way up to the head! Is there maybe a difference in warmth between a male and female human?

Ginger

Definitely!

Sammy

Is that sun!? Jealous again! Mine is indirect. Totally insufficient hence the box with the numbers on it.

Ginger

I’d like a box too. I moved. Can’t find the right angle.

Sammy

Me too. I feel like this might be good.

Ginger

It accentuates the spot on your chin. I feel weird about my chin. Look!

Belle

Belle joined the conversation

You know what!? You two are GORGEOUS!! Are you really judging yourselves by your markings!? Why!? For who!? Humans?? They’re lucky to have us!!

Ginger

Belle? I thought you couldn’t make it! You seem upset. Did something happen?

Belle

Oh I refused to get in that undignified bag type thing that my humans try to put me in sometimes. Put all fours on the opening. It’s like, I know what it sounds like when you bring it out! No, humans! I WON’T be going to the vet today! Yeah, you can spell it out all you want! I can’t spell, but I know how you are when you’re about to take me to it!!

Look at my chin! At least you have markings!

Ginger

Whoa Belle!

Sammy

Take it from an eleven year old, you can’t change your humans. Only your reaction to them.

Ginger

I hear you Sammy but humans can be frustrating AF. I can hear my little humans shouting as we speak. Nothing I can do and I just feel what I feel, you know?

Belle

No offense ladies, but FUCK THAT! I’ve had not only my current humans but one before that! I’m sorry, I really resent anyone just picking me up like I’m a stupid dog or something!

Ginger

Ugh! Dogs! I’ve never actually met one but still.

Sammy

Hear that? The barking? That dog is SO LOUD! And I’m five flights up! Like, what are you even saying! It just repeats the same sound over and over again.

Ginger

I’ve heard they’re big but the one I see all the time is small. Really small.

Belle

Are we really talking about dogs?

Sammy

I’m sorry you guys. I just got really tired. I knew I shouldn’t have moved to this towel but I did anyway.

Ginger

As you were talking I moved to this rug. It’s soft and I think I’ve found a good looking location for me. Hashtag calico problems!

Belle

I love that you said “hashtag”. Don’t know what that means, but, I love it! I moved around too. Guess I’m not that confident tabby I think I am!

Sammy

Ginger

I moved again. A little human is really hitting the spot. Talk soon?

Belle

Pretty sure Sammy’s out. Yeah, definitely talk soon! Bye Ginge!

Ginger

Ginger has left the conversation.

Belle

I get it. Sammy? You’re still on.

Sammy

Belle

We’ve gotta figure out how to get to gallery view. Goodnight ladies!

Belle ends the zoom call.

5 Reasons Why Cats are the Best!

Cats are often misunderstood. They’re sometimes thought of as cold or aloof. Selfish or malicious. They are none of these things. It’s true that a cat doesn’t give themselves over to just anyone. You have to earn their love, but when you do, you’ve got a friend for life and that’s a very cute friend you’ve got there!

Here’s five reasons why cats are just awesome!

They love to look at you

There’s something about your face they just can’t get enough of. Is it your winning smile? Your perfect skin? It’s actually your eyes. If you have cats, excuse me, if cats have you, you know how to really show your love for them. A very slow and deliberate blink then slowly look away. It says, I’m not a threat, and I love you. They’ll return the same motion. There’s nothing better than a slow blinking contest with your cat especially now!

They knead you like you’re a loaf of unbaked bread

Sammy woke up like this after air kneading in her sleep. She has very vivid dreams!

Kittens do this to their mothers when they breast feed. How cute is it that your cat thinks you’re it’s mother! That’s how highly they regard you. You’re their everything!

They roll on their backs to greet you when you come home

I’m SO glad you’re home!!

Seeing you is the best part of their day. They want to hear all about your time apart. What did you do? Who did you see? Did anything particularly cute happen?

I love you but don’t touch my adorable tummy. It triggers me!

I love it when they forcefully throw themselves down as soon as you make eye contact with them!

They talk to you and only you

Cats don’t actually speak to each other. They communicate through body language. They use their voices solely to communicate to you! After all, you’re not that smart. You need things spelled out for you.

My Harry, is particularly talkative. He has a different meow for food, attention, one he uses when he’s about to throw up, then his usual just because meow, a high pitched one syllable that ends on an up note. Isn’t it cute how high pitched male cats voices are?

Southern Charm!? I hate this show!

They move their ears in different directions

What was that?

Cats have very keen hearing. Much better than ours. It comes from being skilled hunters. They can hear a mouse in the wall before you’ll ever know it’s there. This is why they don’t like “hard walkers”. It’s the equivalent of your cat maliciously turning the volume on your TV all the way up and pressing your ear right up to the speaker.

Ha ha ha ha ha! HA HA HA HA HA!

A real cat person tip toes and is happy to do it.

Le chat. Seriously, I met this cat in France.

While dogs might get more credit as pets, they’re people pleasers, I get it, cats are just as wonderful! They’re more empathetic than any human you know and probably more appreciative! Give your cat a big hug and a kiss right now!

Making it okay to talk about sexual abuse male or female

I’ve recently joined multiple sites online in an attempt to feel human connection in this worldwide pandemic. If we can walk away with anything good about 2020, it’s that we’ve stripped our masks, the ones we’ve been wearing for years. The ones that made it okay to answer the question “how are you?” With the answer “great!”

Not all of us are, on any given day, at any given moment. A more apt answer might be, “surviving.”

I was in therapy for years due to past and present trauma and how it manifested in my everyday thoughts and actions. It was useful but not the same as feeling that other people in my daily life felt that I was okay. Normal. A pleasure to be around.

I posted recently about seeing a male GYN and feeling triggered by it.

It was so hard to post. I immediately regretted it and pulled the covers over my head in preparation for the onslaught. The onslaught is comments, which I needed, but feared at the same time.

It occurs to me that there are so many people with similar experiences of trauma, physical, psychological, and sexual, that don’t feel comfortable telling their truths. That’s okay. You’re ready when you’re ready.

I understand. Especially with sexual abuse. There’s so much shame, more so. Particularly for men who have experienced sexual abuse as a child, or sexual assault as an adult.

Men are told to be silent and stoic in direct words while women are told the same in systematic vague terms.

Hope that makes sense, I might go into it more but not now.

Here, I’d like to recognize that there are so many men that have been sexually abused and are not given the same consideration as women. Women are sexual beings right? 😒

I think I speak for all female survivors when I say, I hear you, I believe you, I support you.

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