He had dreams. He wanted to help. He was my parents son. He held them in such high regard. My mom who went back to school to be a social worker in her 40’s. My dad who graduated high school and went back to school in his 40’s. They both had designs to bring peopleContinue reading “My twin”
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Why the loss of a pet is a valid loss
There are people who “have pets”. Then there are people who consider pets as a part of their immediate family. I’m the latter. In fact, almost everyone in my immediate biological family is the same in this regard I grew up with cats. I don’t remember a time without cats. True lovers of cats orContinue reading “Why the loss of a pet is a valid loss”
Dates that changed me on a cellular level
December 8 2023 is one. The day my dad took his last breath. I never imagined I’d hear it but I did. It was labored. In hospice. It was the “death rattle”. It was late. He’d been in hospice for a night. I know now that he’d been in transit before he’d gotten there. InContinue reading “Dates that changed me on a cellular level”
The one were my twin and I thought we would die at age 10
I remember my 5th birthday. My twin brother and I couldn’t sleep that night. We knew there was an event happening. The event was our 5th birthday. For whatever reason, we thought we wouldn’t make it to 10. We thought 10 was “old age”. I slipped into my brothers bed. He was great full. AlthoughContinue reading “The one were my twin and I thought we would die at age 10”
The Last Transition
I lost my dad this past Friday 12:57am December 8, 2023. That’s when our hospice nurse declared his passing. They didn’t use the word death and now I see why. It’s so negative and final. It implies the person is extinguished like a flame. Gone from history. I don’t believe that people are ever goneContinue reading “The Last Transition”
A great dad
I can remember a time when someone on my school bus was going off on Hispanic dads. Can’t remember the specifics, I can only remember being so shocked at this narrative. That they’re unavailable or absent all together. I told this person they were wrong, so wrong. Being a shy pre teen, I didn’t thinkContinue reading “A great dad”